How Do I Pick Someone?

Once you have determined that the issue is not what you need to do but rather who you need to LifeWalk with, there is a new question that arises, how do I select the right person to LifeWalk with? There are a lot of factors that need to go into this decision.

First of all, you need to determine what kind of LifeWalking partner you need. Are you in need of a mentor, a peer, or a person that you can mentor? If you are in a place where the wisdom of someone who is a little farther along in the journey of life would greatly benefit you and help you to move forward your life goals, then you need to look for a mentor. If you are in a place where you could just use some company for the road, someone who understands what it is like and someone who can get into the trenches with you, then you need to find a peer (a peer LifeWalking partner can be someone older, younger, or in a different life place, it is simply someone who you are choosing to walk with rather than glean from). Finally, if you are in a position in which the desire of your heart is to pour into someone else and share the value of your experience and the wisdom that you have gained, than you need to look for a person to mentor.

Once you determine what kind of LifeWalking relationship you need, it is time to find the right person to fulfill that role. Think about your life goals, are they related to career, relationships, spiritual issues, or personal growth; you need to find a person who will be a good support of the goals that you have. If you are looking for spiritual growth, find someone who has the same beliefs that you do. If you are working on career goals, find a person who is in the same field or at least has a good sense of business and what it takes to be successful in the job market. The person that you select doesn't have to be an expert and certainly does not need to have all of the answers, it should simply be a person who will be open to the kind of change that you are trying to make and be an asset in achieving your goals.

It may not be easy to come up with the perfect person. The perfect person probably does not exist. Remember, it can be a friend, an acquaintance or even a referral. You don't even have to know the person well before you begin LifeWalking. Once you begin LifeWalking whether your partner is an old friend or a new acquaintance, the power of walking together through life's biggest challenges will bond you in ways you can't even imagine.

Finally, you can and and should go to God. Pray that God will lead you to the right person. LifeWalking is a Godly pursuit and he will honor your desire to grow personally, spiritually and emotionally.

You really have nothing to fear. Everyone you meet is a potential LifeWalking partner; it is simply up to you to have the courage to ask.