We often make a choice to walk with someone through a challenging time in life. It can quickly become clear that we are in over our heads. Sometimes it is a question of expertise; we simply fail to possess the skills necessary to help. It can also be a lack of professional pedigree; you need a doctor or therapist and I am not one. Finally, it can be a lack of enthusiasm; I just don't have enough interest in the topic that you are pursing to really assist you in the manner that you need. Whatever is causing you to realize that you are in over your head, it is time to call for reinforcements.
We often feel obligated to help with any problem that a friend might bring to us and even though we recognize our own inability to effectively help, we continue to try to help to our own detriment and the detriment of our friends. It is an important step in your maturity to recognize when you are unable to help. When you realize your inability to effectively help, it is your responsibility to your friend/LifeWalking partner to call for help or encourage her to do so.
Even when we ask for reinforcements, we can still LifeWalk with our friends through the process. We can go to appointments, help with childcare, ask about the process, etc. Just because we can't fix everything doesn't mean that our part of the journey is over, many times it is just taking a new shape. Often the new roles that we take on when we call for help are quite beneficial to ourselves and our LifeWalking partners.
Do you feel in over your head in your own life or someone else's?
Who could you call in to help?
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