Core Solutions

Over the past few weeks I have talked to you about making decisions and finding solutions. I have used the example of sending my not-so-enthusiastic daughter to preschool. First I told you about the logical decision to send her; it just makes sense to make her go. Then I talked about the emotional decision to send her; I really needed a break and a chance to work on my career. Today I want to talk to you about my core decision to send her.

A core decision is something that is instinctive. It is a decision that you can't necessarily explain, you just know in your gut that it is right. Many people talk about core decisions when they are intending to marry, they don't know why it is the right decision to get married, they just have a gut feeling that it is the right thing to do. People also trust core decisions when planning which college to attend. After all the research and school visits, one school just "feels right."

When making decisions, we are often forced to go to our core, the place deep down inside, to come to a final conclusion. When the right answer isn't always clear, we often trust that gut instinct to guide us to the right decision.

Sending my daughter to school right now is a choice. She is young enough that I could pull her out. However, something in my gut tells me that this is the right decision for both of us. She really wants to be there and the only thing holding her back from fully enjoying school is the five minute separation anxiety that she feels when I drop her off. For now, I believe that I need to trust my gut instinct that I am doing the right thing by sending her.

If you are struggling to make a decision now, ask yourself what your core is telling you. Call it women's intuition, call it gut instinct, whatever you call it, the internal sense that guides you to a decision is more often right than wrong. Trust it.